Late night conversations, just like binge watching a television show, stay with you long after the last word has been uttered. Two years ago, while sitting cross-legged on the kitchen countertop, I recall having a tete-a-tete with my then-roommate about doing the unconventional: I wanted to switch colleges. While it may appear to be nothing out of the ordinary here, it is very rare to make that kind of decision where I come from. “If you don’t ask, the answer is always no,” she had told me.

On a whim, the human race is subjected to external forces and situations. Emotional intelligence fails to intervene when it is most needed—worry and fear are unavoidable in the majority of us. Do the tiny little voices in your head frequently overwhelm and discourage you? Do you feel compelled to believe and succumb to those voices that tell you, “This is impossible” or “You should give up”? These voices are often louder when you’re stuck in a rut and don’t know what to do, or when you’re basking in the warmth of silence. 

Your relationship did not work out for whatever reason. Whether it’s been a few weeks or a few years, you’ll have come a long way in learning something you didn’t know before. There will have been highs, which have been removed from your story because you’ve broken up, but you still own those good times, those happy memories. There will have been lows, and instead of seeing them through the rose-colored glasses of someone who wanted to make it work, you can see them for what they truly were.